Raising kids 1

This post is part inspired by my personal experience as mom and part triggered by recent incident narrated by a friend about her neighbor. The lady, whose behavior prompted me to write this particular blog, has two kids aged 5.5 and 3.5 years old.

She was pushing and thrashing her kids, because the elder one scored zeroes in all his assessments. My friend intervened and stopped that, but she wondered what more she could have done.

Parenting skill is something that is relative what works for me may not work for her. And I do not have any proof that my parenting style is better. But I do believe that raising kids are like maintaining a bed of flowers. You need to nurture them with loving care, guidance and support.

Let me begin by asking, how you would nurture a sapling to grow into a flower blooming plant.

1)     You start by choosing the proper pot for your plant.

2)     You then make a mix of soil and fertilizers (need basis) to get nourishing mixture and pour it into the pot.

3)     You put your little prized sapling deep into the soil and pour a little water each day till the roots are holding the soil strongly.

4)     Slowly you see it grow with each passing day.

5)     You pour small quantity of water ensuring that in the process you do not damage it’s developing roots.

6)     You weed it regularly, so that its growth is not impacted by the weeds.

7)     Occasionally you prune it.

8)     Within few weeks/months your plant will bloom flowers.

9)     Then you can admire the result of all your hard work of so many months.

Questions

10)What if you added too much water in initial few days?

11)What if you pour whole week’s water supply in one day and then for the rest of the week ignored the sapling because of your work commitments?

12)What if instead of gently & carefully watering it, you emptied the entire water can in one go?

13)Will the sapling grow into a healthy plant?

In all possibility it might not grow at all. All you will be left with is a rotten set of stems and leaves.

14) You can keep wondering on what went wrong.

15) After all you did give the entire week’s water supply to it. So what if, it’s done in a single day.

16) Everything else was readily available for the plant, the soil, the sunlight, its own chlorophyll.

17) If it wished it would have turned into a plant with beautiful flowers.

18) Whose fault is it… plants or yours?

19) Keep thinking …. … You already know the answer.

20) All you needed to give the sapling was water at regular intervals, rest all was taken care of by the sapling itself.

21) But you failed to even provide that essential water supply and that and only that was your crucial contribution for its growth.

I will conclude this in one more blog, as what my friend had narrated me was very overwhelming  and today I can manage to write only this much.